“In a world where criticism is instant and widespread, remember that true strength lies in building, not tearing down.” — Kosin Oghenekaro Edafe
Navigating a World of Criticism: Lessons from Great Leaders
The world today is filled with criticism, judgment, and negativity. Social media, news outlets, and even casual conversations often revolve around pointing out faults rather than offering solutions. Many great leaders throughout history have faced relentless criticism, yet they persevered.
In this post, we explore key insights from world leaders—including President Russell M. Nelson, Nelson Mandela, Winston Churchill, and Abraham Lincoln—to learn how to rise above criticism and focus on what truly matters.
1. The Reality of a Critical World
Criticism is part of human nature, but when it becomes a habit, it creates a toxic environment. In his October 2023 General Conference address, President Russell M. Nelson, President of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, stated:
“Vulgarity, faultfinding, and evil speaking of others are all too common. Too many pundits, politicians, entertainers, and other influencers throw insults constantly. I am greatly concerned that so many people seem to believe that it is completely acceptable to condemn, malign, and vilify anyone who does not agree with them. Many seem eager to damage another’s reputation with pathetic and pithy barbs!
Anger never persuades. Hostility builds no one. Contention never leads to inspired solutions. Regrettably, we sometimes see contentious behavior even within our own ranks. We hear of those who belittle their spouses and children, of those who use angry outbursts to control others, and of those who punish family members with the “silent treatment.” We hear of youth and children who bully and of employees who defame their colleagues.” (Nelson, 2023)
We can choose a better way.
His statement reminds us that we have the power to choose how we respond.
Abraham Lincoln, one of America’s most criticized presidents, faced relentless attacks from his political opponents and the press. He once remarked:
“If I were to read, much less answer, all the attacks made on me, this shop might as well be closed for any other business.” (Basler, 1953)
His response highlights an important lesson: Focusing on criticism drains energy that could be used for progress.
2. How Great Leaders Respond to Criticism
A. President Russell M. Nelson: Responding with Kindness
President Nelson has faced criticism for his faith and leadership, yet he consistently responds with kindness and unwavering faith. He teaches that our response to negativity defines our character.
In a 2018 address, he said:
“The joy we feel has little to do with the circumstances of our lives and everything to do with the focus of our lives.” (Nelson, 2018)
His teaches aligns with Mahatma Gandhi, who endured immense criticism while leading India’s independence movement. Gandhi’s response was:
“An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.” (Fischer, 1954)
Instead of retaliating, he focused on peace and reconciliation, which changed the course of history.
B. Nelson Mandela: Patience and Forgiveness
Few leaders faced as much criticism and opposition as Nelson Mandela. He spent 27 years in prison, yet emerged not with vengeance but with a vision for unity. He stated:
“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” (Mandela, 1994)
Mandela’s response teaches us that holding onto criticism and resentment only harms us.
C. Winston Churchill: Standing Firm in Adversity
During World War II, Winston Churchill faced opposition, even within his government. He responded to criticism with courage, famously saying:
“You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” (Langworth, 2012)
Churchill’s wisdom reminds us that great achievements require focus. If we allow criticism to distract us, we lose sight of our mission.
3. Why People Are Quick to Criticize
Understanding why people criticize can help us respond wisely. Research suggests some key reasons:
- Fear and Insecurity: People often criticize others to mask their own insecurities. (Brown, 2018)
- Misunderstanding: Lack of information leads to judgment.
- Jealousy: Some criticize because they envy others’ success. (Tesser, 1988)
- Social Influence: Negative news and criticism spread faster than positive stories. (Baumeister et al., 2001)
As President Nelson teaches, we should choose to uplift rather than criticize. He said:
“The adversary rejoices in labels because they divide. Labels can lead to judging and animosity.” (Nelson, 2021)
By choosing love over labels, we create a more compassionate world.
4. Practical Ways to Rise Above Criticism
A. Develop Emotional Resilience
Resilient people don’t allow negativity to derail them. Eleanor Roosevelt advised:
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” (Roosevelt, 1960)
By focusing on our values, we remain strong even in the face of criticism.
B. Focus on Purpose, Not Opinions
Successful people concentrate on their mission, not public opinion. Jeff Bezos, founder of Amazon, once said:
“If you can’t tolerate critics, don’t do anything new or interesting.” (Stone, 2013)
Instead of fearing criticism, embrace it as a sign of making an impact.
C. Choose Love and Understanding
One of President Nelson’s most powerful teachings is that love transforms lives. He said:
“When we love God with all our hearts, He turns our hearts to the well-being of others in a beautiful, virtuous cycle.” (Nelson, 2020)
Love disarms critics and changes hearts. By choosing love over resentment, we inspire others.
D. Lead by Example
Jesus Christ, the greatest leader of all, faced immense criticism but responded with love, healing, and wisdom. His words still guide millions today:
“Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you.” — Matthew 5:44 (KJV)
When we lead with love and humility, we silence critics through our actions, not arguments.
Final Thoughts: Rising Above the Noise
The world will always be quick to criticize, but we have a choice:
- Engage in negativity or focus on building something meaningful
- Respond with anger or lead with kindness
- Be discouraged by criticism or use it as fuel for growth
President Russell M. Nelson, alongside history’s greatest leaders, teaches us that true greatness lies in lifting others rather than tearing them down.
As you face criticism in your personal or professional life, remember this quote:
“Be so busy improving yourself and lifting others that you have no time for criticism or resentment.”
When we choose love over judgment, patience over frustration, and purpose over negativity, we create a world worth living in.
References
- Basler, R. P. (1953). The Collected Works of Abraham Lincoln. Rutgers University Press.
- Baumeister, R. F., et al. (2001). Bad Is Stronger Than Good. Review of General Psychology, 5(4), 323-370.
- Brown, B. (2018). Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts. Random House.
- Fischer, L. (1954). The Life of Mahatma Gandhi. Harper & Row.
- Langworth, R. M. (2012). Churchill by Himself: The Definitive Collection of Quotations. PublicAffairs.
- Mandela, N. (1994). Long Walk to Freedom. Little, Brown & Co.
- Nelson, R. M. (2023). Peacemakers Needed. General Conference, April 2023.
- Tesser, A. (1988). Toward a Self-Evaluation Maintenance Model of Social Behavior. Psychological Review, 95(3), 291-310.
